Emotional Intelligence In Your Personal Life
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Over the past few years, emotional intelligence (or EQ) has become one of the biggest buzzwords among professionals in the workplace-and beyond.
Many claim that it is a must for anyone to develop if they want to succeed at work and achieve their personal goals. It looks like there are never enough resources available to teach people about this personality trait, though.
This can be quite frustrating as most people have this potential inside of them!
Fortunately, we can improve our own EQ through self-awareness and practice. In fact, research suggests that developing your EQ will make you happier than just focusing on the superficial traits such as having high levels of empathy.
Definition and importance of emotional intelligence
What is emotional intelligence? And why is it important to be strong with emotions?
Emotional intelligence (or EQ for short) refers to your ability to recognize, understand, manage, and use your own feelings and those of other people. It also includes how well you relate to and handle situations that may elicit emotion.
Most experts agree that being emotionally intelligent isn’t just something most people are or aren’t, but rather a quality that can be developed through education and practice.
A small amount of research indicates that having higher levels of EQ is related to greater success in life, including educational attainment, career development, relationship satisfaction, and overall happiness.
Relationship with others
Develop your relationship skills, and you will enjoy interacting with people more. You will feel happier when you are with other people, and they will perceive you as a fun person to be around.
Interpersonal intelligence (or emotional intelligence) is the ability to recognize what emotions are present in someone else, and how to influence or motivate them towards achieving their own goals.
It is also referred to as intrapersonal intelligence, because it focuses on within yourself. Some experts believe that these two types of intelligence work together, so if one side is limited then the other is too.
We can learn something new about interpersonal relationships every day, for example, whether it’s from reading a book or listening to an audio lesson.
There are many ways to improve your emotional literacy, suchas by practicing using empathy, understanding feelings, and learning why certain behaviors are done.
This article will go into detail on some easy things you can do to develop your relational skills.
How to improve your emotional intelligence
Improving your emotional quotient (EQ) is one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself. While some may think that self-awareness comes naturally, it’s actually something we have to work at.
Everyone has certain strengths and weaknesses when it comes to emotions. The key is learning how to recognize these strengths and skills and enhancing them, while minimizing or eliminating areas where you are lacking.
You don’t need to be able to identify all of the feelings inside you to enjoy life, but being aware of your limitations can help you minimize stress and maximize happiness.
One of the most important skills to have as an emotional person is being aware of your own emotions.
This can be tricky at times because we all feel things differently, but there are some tried and true strategies for learning more about yourself.
First, you should be conscious of how you feel around other people. This includes friends, family members, and colleagues.
Are they making you feel good about yourself or down? If the later, it’s time to look into whether their comments influence you negatively and if they’re worth reevaluating.
You might also want to consider looking into why you’re feeling a certain way. Is it due to something that happened recently? Or could this be a habit of yours that you need to work on breaking.
Make a personal development plan
Developing your emotional intelligence doesn’t happen overnight, but you can still achieve some significant progress if you make a deliberate effort to work on it every day.
Start by setting a goal for yourself – something you want to accomplish within the next few weeks or months. Then, pick an area of your life that requires improvement — maybe you would like to learn how to be kind to people more, or perhaps you could try to understand what makes other people feel happy or unhappy.
Whatever it is, you are not doing anything important with your life unless you strive to improve in this domain. You will only keep these goals short-term, though — otherwise, you might as well give up.
Once you have chosen your area to focus on, find a way to measure your EI every week. This can be done using a questionnaire, a test, or just through conscious behavior observation.
If you notice yourself becoming angry frequently, for example, then ask yourself why youarebecomingangry. Does someone dosomethingthatmakesyouangry? Orisituationlikeabrotherversesiblingwherethelatterdoesn’tvalueyouropinionanddontwanttoconversewithyou?
The easier way to check your EQ is to see whether you recognize and acknowledge your own emotions. If you can’t identify one feeling, start looking until you do.
That’s what we call emotion literacy.
Be honest with your peers
As mentioned earlier, emotional intelligence (or EQ as it is commonly referred to) can help you in every area of your life. This includes relationships!
One of the most important things that people lack these days is how to be honest with each other. With the speed technology moves at today, if someone does not like something about you or wants to hurt you, they will find ways to do so.
This is especially true when it comes to friendships.
People believe that because they are good friends to you now, therefore you must want them around forever. This could not be further from the truth.
Relationships take work and sharing uncomfortable truths is just too hard for some. If this is you then you need to improve your emotional intelligence.
You should never feel guilty for wanting less from a friendship than before. It takes two people who want the same thing to make a relationship work, and sometimes one person needs to recognize this and call time off.
Be honest with your partner
It’s easy to assume that because you share a home, food, and water with someone for twenty-four hours a day, that they know you well.
That assumption is especially true when it comes to romantic relationships.
But staying awake through a movie together once a week definitely can’t help them understand who you are as a person.
And an argument over something trivial may tell them nothing about how you respond to things that matter to you.
So if you find yourself feeling hurt or angry due to what their behavior indicates about their feelings for you, try not to take it personally.
It could be that they just don’t realize how much they matters to you until you make it clear.
Be honest with each other and ask from time to time if there’s anything you need done that takes away from your relationship.
Be honest with your parents
Letting go of control is never easy, but doing so can help you achieve big goals. If they are no longer supporting you in that way, it’s time to move onto other supports.
Parents play an important role in helping their children develop self-esteem and emotional intelligence. As such, if you're feeling down or need some extra motivation, ask your parents about how they've succeeded and give them kudos for all those things.
Your parents may not always tell you what you want to hear, but at the very least they'll be supportive.
If necessary, though, do look beyond family when seeking support. Find groups or individuals who have gone through similar experiences and get advice from them.