How Did Jesus Display Emotional Intelligence?
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In this article, we will be talking about how Christ displayed emotional intelligence. Some people may refer to it as ‘spiritual intelligence’ or even ‘intelligent spirit’. It is also sometimes referred to as EQ (emotional quotient) or EI (emotional intelligence).
Whatever you call it, developing your emotional intelligence is an important part of spirituality. After all, spirituality is about having a relationship with God, is it not?
So why are most Christian pastors and priests very emotionally detached from their congregations? Why do so many church leaders seem incapable of showing love towards others?
It can easily be explained. Pastors and priest spend lots of time in school learning theology and doctrine, but few if any teachers ever emphasize the importance of emotional literacy.
They teach students how to relate to other people by telling them to "love one another", but what does that really mean? Does it mean letting everyone else control you and make demands of you?
No, it doesn't. And it's definitely not telling everyone around you who hurt you to just let go and forgive and forget!
That sort of false-oneness won’t help you grow as a person. It'll only set you back. You need to work on yourself too.
The link between emotional intelligence and mental health
Over the past few decades, researchers have studied what makes someone an effective leader of others. They refer to this as leadership theory or leadership studies.
Most agree that being able to relate to people is a key factor in becoming a successful leader. This ability is referred to as interpersonal effectiveness or empathy.
Leaders who are able to connect with individuals at a personal level are more likely to motivate and inspire their team members, promote teamwork, and strengthen relationships.
Research also shows that when people feel respected and understood, they will be willing to trust you and believe you can handle difficult situations.
Furthermore, social workers say that when people perceive that you care about them, they will go beyond what is expected from them and do things for you that they wouldn’t normally do.
It’s clear then that having strong interpersonal skills can help you lead. Being able to understand how other people think and behave can make your job as a leader easier.
Ways to improve one's emotional intelligence
Developing your emotional quotient (EQ) is an excellent way to enhance your overall well-being and quality of life. While some may consider it a new fad, EQ has been around for quite some time in the field of psychology.
It was first defined by Peter A. Graham in his 1989 book The Emotionally Intelligent Workplace. Since then, it has become a popular term that people use to describe someone who can identify and understand their own emotions as well as those of others.
Some believe this trait is born naturally, while others think it can be learned through education or training.
There are several different theories about what makes up your emotional IQ, but most agree that you're able to perceive your own feelings and recognize them in other people. For example, when you feel angry, you're aware of why you're feeling that way and how these feelings affect you.
You also know whether something made you happy or unhappy and if there is anything you can do to change the situation at hand. This applies to both positive and negative experiences.
Look at your reactions
In this world, where we are constantly surrounded by distractions, technology, and materialistic goods, it can be difficult to look beyond these things and focus on what is important to you.
This can cause issues for people who have invested in other areas of their lives – such as family- those close to them go away every day without any proof that they exist apart from whatever happens next.
On top of this, many people feel like they do not have anyone to connect with or trust, which only makes them more isolated.
In his book The Power of Full Attention, Brene Brown describes how our everyday actions are influenced by something she calls “full attention.” This is defined as the state when you give yourself completely to something for a specific amount of time.
For example, if you were given a task that required your full concentration for one hour then you would have achieved a goal for the term ‘attention’. Unfortunately, most people do not achieve this because they are distracted before the term has even started!
Something that may seem trivial to some…but unnecessary spending comes down to full attention. If you find yourself investing money in non-essentials, ask yourself why you are buying it and whether you really need it.
Meditation is a practice that has many benefits. Not only does it help you relax, reduce stress levels and improve your focus, but studies show that it can boost emotional intelligence.
Research shows that people who meditate are more likely to use empathy and respect other people’s points of view. They're also more likely to be socially intelligent — able to identify social cues and know how to use them in productive ways.
Meditation doesn't necessarily make you feel good about yourself, but it helps you understand why that's not important. It teaches you to separate what you do from how you feel.
There are several types of meditation, so pick one that suits you. Some people focus on breathing while others may choose a word or sound (like “om”). Whatever method you select, just start with five minutes a day and see how you go.
I've listed some tips here for beginners.
Tone of voice
When talking to someone, how you tone your voice can make a big difference in their perception of you. It’s not just whether what you say is positive or negative, it’s also how you say it.
Some people may perceive you as being more passionate about something when you use silence instead of small talk before saying something important. Others may feel that you are less invested in the topic if you seem bored with what they have to say.
If you want to display emotional intelligence like Christ, then learn how to control your tone of voice.
You will need to be aware of how others respond to you so you can regulate your own emotions. You don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but at the same time you want them to understand what you are trying to tell them.
Practice using different tones to show how much you care about things. Use low volume and soft voices to convey seriousness, loud voices to emphasize an argument, and high-pitched noises for anger.
The opposite is true for children — young kids will get distracted by a loud voice, while teenagers and adults will find a higher pitched voice annoying.
Another way to assess someone’s emotional intelligence is by their respect for personal space. If they are constantly moving closer to you or invading your space, it can be difficult to feel comfortable around them.
This is not only uncomfortable for you, but also for them because they want to connect with you and spend time with you, so they will try to make you happy. They may even go beyond what you asked of them to do so.
If this is the case then it is important to keep personal distance until you both feel that intimacy is truly possible. This will take work, but it is worth it!
By being aware of other people’s personal boundaries, you will know when it is time to move on. You will also know how to protect those walls and barriers which help you stay healthy emotionally.