How Emotional Intelligence Affects Performance
Success Quarterly is a tech and business blog that focuses on the intersection of Silicon Valley and Hollywood, including technology, business, mobile, entertainment, media, and related topics.
Over the past few years, emotional intelligence (or EQ for short) has become one of the most popular leadership theories. It looks at how well you control your own emotions to influence others around you and improve teamwork and productivity in the workplace.
Many companies now offer programs focused on developing their employees’ EQ. Some even have specific courses such as “Motivation” or “Team Building” that are designed to increase someone’s EQ.
But is it worth investing in this theory? Is there proof that it works?
This article will explore whether or not they are correct by looking at the three branches of emotional intelligence: self-awareness, management of emotion, and motivation. We will also look at some examples of these concepts in action so that you can see them in practice.
We will then discuss why emotional intelligence matters and what effects it can have on your career and life. And lastly, we will talk about some potential benefits of developing your EQ.
Relationship with effective leadership
As we have discussed, emotional intelligence is important to success in your career and life. But what most people do not realize is that how you manage your own emotions also impacts the leader around you.
As a leader, one of the things that can make or break your influence is whether you are able to connect with others.
If you cannot relate to other people, then it will be difficult for them to feel comfortable coming to you with their problems.
You may even lose some followers who want to leave the organization because they no longer feel connected to you.
On the other hand, if you enjoy interacting with individuals and are aware of their needs, then you will gain trust from those around you.
These individuals will feel more confident in you and will work harder for the company because they believe in its future under your leadership.
Ways to improve your emotional intelligence
One of the most important things you can work on in your life is your emotional intelligence (or EQ as it’s often referred to).
Emotional intelligence refers to how well you understand yourself, how well you understand other people, and how well you use those insights to relate to others and manage your relationships.
It goes beyond just knowing what emotions are and being able to recognize them, though. You also have to consider whether an emotion is positive or negative, if it is appropriate for a given situation, and how to regulate your own emotions.
You could say that having high levels of emotional intelligence means being aware of all of these concepts, but even more than that, it means using those ideas to enhance your relationship with yourself, develop skills related to understanding and controlling your emotions, and help you achieve your goals and live your dreams.
Learn to recognize your emotions
It is important to be aware of how you feel in certain situations, but beyond that it is also crucial to learn what each emotion means. This way, you can better understand why you are feeling a particular thing and what you should do about it.
It is easy to get distracted by emotional stimuli – something happening at work may make you angry, for example. You may keep thinking about this anger as it rolls off of you, or it could grow into something more substantial down the line.
By being conscious of your feelings, though, you can identify the source of your stress and take action to reduce it.
Emotions come and go, so instead of getting stuck in them, try looking past the current state of affairs and onto the future. This will help you focus on moving forward rather than dwelling on what has happened already.
In fact, there is some evidence to suggest that people with higher levels of emotional intelligence are less likely to suffer from mental health issues like depression and anxiety.
Become a good listener
One of the most important skills to develop as an employee is being a good listener. Good listeners are noticed by others because they seem more willing to engage in conversation with other people. They also tend to pay close attention to what other people say, taking notes or even asking questions if necessary.
Good listening is a quality that employers look for consistently throughout the workplace. If you can’t be bothered to listen to someone when they talk to you, then how will you be able to communicate effectively once you do have something to tell them?
As a leader, your success depends on your ability to motivate and inspire staff members, but only if they feel like they can connect with you. You must create open conversations and understand that not everyone will agree with your decisions, but that doesn’t mean they won’t respect you.
In fact, it often makes them admire you more. A well-developed sense of emotional intelligence means you're aware of your own emotions and those of others. It gives you control over your own reactions and helps you identify why things are happening around you.
Developing your empathy and understanding yourself and others will help you in the workplace.
Teach important skills to your friends
As we mentioned earlier, EQ is not simply about being able to identify your own emotions but also learning how to manage those of others.
This can be tricky if you don’t know what people in your life are trying to get through. For example, maybe someone wants some praise for their hard work, or they want help with their project so that they feel good about themselves.
By looking at their behavior, you could infer what they need from personal experiences, but it’s still difficult to predict what they will do next.
So instead, try teaching an important skill — such as emotional intelligence — to one or several of your close friends.
Be honest with your peers
As mentioned earlier, emotional intelligence (EI) is like IQ for emotions. Just because you’re not able to identify what someone else is feeling does not mean that they do not have it.
By knowing how to recognize other people's feelings, you can learn a lot about them. For example, if a colleague comes across as angry or frustrated, it is best to be direct and ask why they are upset. It may also be necessary to give them some time to cool off before coming back into the workplace.
At times, they may need help figuring out their feelings, and this could be done by talking to them or asking them to talk to you. They might feel more comfortable doing so in private though, so make sure to factor that into your plan.
If there is something important they wanted you to know, they will tell you. Listen carefully and respond in a way that shows you heard them and understood their message.
Communicate your feelings
In fact, there is some evidence that people who are higher in emotional intelligence are more likely to succeed because they understand emotions better. They learn how to manage their own emotions and those of others more effectively.
This could mean avoiding situations where you might get upset or taking time before responding to something that may make you feel bad or angry. It also means being able to acknowledge and work through your own negative feelings so that they don’t interfere with your performance.
People who have high levels of emotional intelligence seem to be less inclined to compare themselves to other people and less likely to assume that things must be difficult for others if they see them as successful.
They are also more likely to believe that someone else will agree with their viewpoint or perspective.
We’ve all heard stories of people with high emotional intelligence who, after an embarrassing failure or loss, simply give up and don’t try to put effort into changing their behavior because they think it is pointless.
That isn’t true though! You are always in control of your actions and behaviors, and you can choose to either use them or not. Just like someone who has low self-esteem, there are times when he or she should believe in themselves and push through difficult challenges.
It may be hard at first but that internal confidence will eventually outweigh any external factor.
We’re only as strong as our weakest link, so being confident in yourself means investing time in things that make you feel good about yourself and helping others do the same.
There is no reason why we cannot enjoy our lives once we realize how much power we have over ourselves.