How Emotional Intelligence Can Be Learned
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People are not aware of their own emotions, which is one of the major reasons why there are so many hurtful relationships in this world.
If you ever feel like something isn’t quite right between two people, it's usually because they don't know how to read each other's emotional signals.
We're constantly emitting an endless stream of non-verbal cues that tell everyone around us what we're feeling at any given moment.
By reading these signs, we can often predict whether someone else will be supportive or not, if they'll react well to a situation, and even when they might show up for work or home next.
Because we're always broadcasting our feelings, people have a lot of opportunities to observe them. In fact, some say that being able to recognize and identify your own emotions is more important than knowing about all the other internal processes, like reasoning or understanding concepts.
Emotions connect us to each other, help us deal with stress and facilitate bonding. When we lose touch of our senses of emotion, we start to lose connection with ourselves and those close to us, which can lead to mental health issues.
Luckily, emotional intelligence (or EI) is a skill that anyone can learn.
Factors that affect our emotional intelligence
One of the most important things that can influence your EI is how you manage stress. Stress comes from many sources, including financial issues, health concerns, relationship problems, and more.
When stressed, some people turn to food or alcohol, which are both bad for you and sometimes help reduce stress temporarily. More often than not, though, these habits just make you feel sicker and hungry or drunk even more.
Instead of eating to be happier, learn ways to effectively deal with stressful situations so that they don’t have the same effect on you.
Practice relaxation techniques such as breathing exercises or meditation. Also try talking about what worries you so that you focus less on the worry itself and more on the fact that you were able to talk about it.
Research has shown that people who are in good relationships tend to enjoy them more and keep them longer. Having close friends helps give you confidence and feeling supported keeps you motivated.
Thinking about how you could improve your interpersonal skills is a great way to increase your empathy.
Ways to improve our emotional intelligence
Developing your emotional skills is not easy, but it is possible. You can learn how to recognize and manage your emotions, apply them in everyday situations, and strengthen the system in your brain that processes emotion.
Many people have long thought of anger as a bad thing, something we should try to avoid at all costs. But research shows that when used effectively, moderate levels of anger can motivate you to achieve goals and inspire action.
Similarly, frustration has its place in life. When faced with challenges or obstacles, there’s nothing wrong with feeling some strong negative feelings.
But too much negativity can impair our ability to concentrate and focus, which are essential for effective thinking and problem solving.
And finally, someone who is high in emotional intelligence will know the difference between being motivated by positive emotions like hope and inspiration, and being influenced by irrational fears and worries.
Practice meditation and yoga
Developing your emotional intelligence is not an easy feat, but there are ways to do it. One of the most important things you can do for your mental health is practice yoga or meditation.
Both yoga and meditation help increase your emotional intelligence by improving your relationship skills, self-awareness, and regulation of emotions.
Relationship skills refer to being able to identify what needs you have in relationships and being aware of how other people perceive those needs. For example, if someone does not agree with something you both like, they may feel that you don’t care about them as much as you say you do. This could be due to a difference of opinion, or maybe because they think you like him/her more than you really do.
Self-awareness refers to being conscious of yourself and your actions. If you want to improve your emotional intelligence, then you must know who you are and what makes you happy and sad.
Regulation of emotion means being able to control your own feelings and reactions to situations. This includes being able to recognize when you are feeling angry, frustrated, depressed, etc., and taking time off to relax before returning to normal activities.
So why should you add yoga to your daily routine? Because yoga has been shown to boost emotional well-being!
Yoga helps reduce stress, anxiety, and depression. In fact, some studies suggest that it may even be better at reducing symptoms of these conditions than medication.
Learn to be consistent
Consistency is one of the most important things for someone trying to develop their emotional intelligence. You have to consistently show up in person, online, via phone conversations, and through texts or messages.
People will also rely on you to set appropriate boundaries and keep commitments. For example, if they tell you that they’ll come over after work today, but they don’t see you until later that night, then they were not going to make any efforts to connect with you during that time, even though they said they would.
It sounds hard to do at times, but it’s something everyone needs to learn eventually. It can be very difficult when people are constantly putting themselves ahead of you, which happens whether it’s because they want your attention or they feel entitled to it.
But without this understanding, empathy and compassion cannot grow naturally. So try to be as honest and open about who you are and what you need as possible so that others can understand you better.
Develop our self-confidence
Over the past few years, emotional intelligence has become one of the most popular concepts in psychology. Many consider it to be more important than IQ when it comes to success.
This is not surprising given that we spend a large amount of time interacting with other people, and how well you will succeed in life depends heavily on how well you manage your emotions as well as what kind of person you are.
Research shows that having high levels of emotional intelligence can have significant positive effects on your career and personal life. It can help you achieve your goals and reduce stress, which only helps you perform better.
There are several theories about why emotionally intelligent individuals fare so well, but none fully explain all facets of this quality. However, there is one factor that seems to make a difference: their level of confidence.
Certain studies suggest that being confident makes up around half of the variance in emotional intelligence when compared with those who were less confident. Confidence is also linked to higher empathy and social competence.
If you want to increase your own emotional intelligence, then you should try to develop your confidence. This could mean talking more confidently in general or in certain situations, investing in skills and knowledge that matter to you, and believing in yourself and others.
It could also include trying new things and taking risks, which could boost your overall sense of wellbeing. All of these could contribute to you feeling more comfortable in familiar settings as well as in relationships.
Be honest with ourselves
A lot of people get stuck in a pattern of thinking that makes them come up with all sorts of reasons why they are not worthy or likeable.
Heck, I know some people who feel so bad about themselves that it actually hurts their emotional well-being.
They deny how much money they have because they believe that being rich is beautiful. Or they refuse to acknowledge how hard they worked by putting more emphasis on what they did not do than what they accomplished.
This internal struggle can go on for years, which is why most people are not happy with their personal lives. They put out so much energy criticizing and trying to change something about themselves, but never succeed in doing so.
That is a waste of time that you could be investing in other things. It’s also a way to hurt yourself physically through stress.
Look at our reactions
We are constantly exposed to lots of different emotions, and we learn from them. For example, when you feel angry with someone, you might want to go after them or say hurtful things about them, but you do not actually touch them because you know that is just going to make your anger worse.
We also learn what kind of emotional responses help us and which ones don’t. For instance, if someone makes you really mad, it is better to take a few days to cool off before trying to be friends with them, because you will waste time being upset and feeling bad about yourself.
Research shows that people who can control their own emotions are more likely to succeed in life. This success comes not only in professional settings, but also in relationships and family life.
Learn to be assertive
Being able to manage your emotions is an important quality for anyone to have. When you're someone with low emotional intelligence, you tend to depend more on external factors like what you've learned or not in school, how well you think others expect you to feel, and whether they've done similar things before to help you determine how you should feel about something.
That's why it can be tough when people close to you show signs of weakness or need help that you're willing to offer. It may even push you to break down your barriers and use those resources yourself.
But beyond being uncomfortable, this kind of behavior can actually hurt you in some ways.
If you rely too much on other people's feelings and experiences, then when they don't feel the same way you do about something, you'll find it harder to believe them and trust their opinion. This can prevent you from sharing your ideas and thoughts as well as preventing you from getting the help and support you want.
And if you're unwilling to ask for help because you don’t think you deserve it, you won’t get it. You will remain isolated and unhappy.
Emotions are powerful tools. If you learn how to control yours, you can apply that knowledge anywhere – at work, to friends and family, or to life overall. But unless you develop your own sense of self-worth, no one else will try to inspire it.