How Emotional Intelligence Impacts Your Life
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Over the past few years, emotional intelligence (“EI”) has become one of the most popular concepts in psychology. It is also one of the most controversial. Some believe that it is simply another way to label someone as having “soft skills” instead of hard skills. Others feel that it is too closely linked with other terms such as “emotion-focused counseling” or even “neo-selfishism.”
Despite these criticisms, EI has seen an impressive rise in popularity. This can be attributed to two main reasons. First, there are now many good studies which show that people who have high levels of EI are more likely to succeed in life than those who do not. Second, most employers require some sort of formal training in EI for workers. Therefore, developing your EQ is increasingly important if you want to survive professionally.
In this article, we will discuss what makes up emotional intelligence and how it relates to your personal success. We will look at the different types of empathy that make up individual branches of EI, and how they relate to each other. Finally, we will talk about how to improve your emotional quotient and apply this knowledge in daily life.
Held accountable by others, self-awareness, and understanding emotions are all components of emotional competence.
How to improve your emotional intelligence
Improving your emotional quotient (EQ) is one of the most powerful ways to enhance your overall happiness in this life. You are born with a certain degree of EQ, but as you grow up, you can develop it or lose it.
It’s easy to forget that what people say and do has an effect on you. Whether they're saying positive things about you, being supportive, encouraging you, criticizing you, etc., everything leaves an impression.
Your perception of these things and how you feel about them shapes your emotions and behaviors and influences others' perceptions of you.
In fact, research shows that when other people perceive that you have low levels of empathy, for example, they will likely treat you with more contempt than if you were higher in empathy.
Similarly, when they believe you have high self-esteem, they may be less willing to go out of their way to help you because they think you don't need help. In those cases, you'll miss out on important opportunities to show yourself that you deserve good luck and praise.
There are many different strategies you can use to increase your emotional intelligence.
Hold on to your anger
When you’re motivated by emotions, it can be hard to hold onto your calm. You may feel like letting yourself become increasingly angry or stressed out is your only option, but that isn’t good for you.
Research shows that people who experience more frequent and longer bouts of negative emotion are at risk for mental health issues. On the other hand, there are ways to manage your emotional responses in order to reduce this risk.
One way to do this is to acknowledge and understand your feelings.
Become a more optimistic person
Overcoming your emotional intelligence is like learning to play the guitar or swim. You can’t really learn it unless you are aware of what you're feeling, when you're feeling it, and why you’re feeling it.
Clarity about these things is important so that you don't act impulsively. For example, if you realize that you've got a rage episode coming on, then you can prepare yourself by writing down all the reasons why you're angry.
You'll probably find at least one good reason for being angry which will help you control your emotions.
Optimism is also an integral part of having high emotional intelligence. Even though life may sometimes seem very tough, there's always something you can do to feel better.
It might be going after your dreams instead of giving up, asking for help rather than trying to do everything alone, or believing that someone out there cares about you.
Know when to say yes and when to say no
Let’s look at some examples of “yeses” and “no es.”
I will give you my money if you do your best to be healthy.
I will give you my money if you go to college.
I will give you my money if you start working for me.
I will give you my money if you are the best person for this job that I have ever interviewed.
These all sound like good things, but only because we as humans learn how to manage our emotions.
If someone asks us to do something that is not in our own self-interest, we get angry or feel discouraged. We can lose motivation and even stop trying to achieve the goal.
That is why it is so important to know when to say yes and when to say no.
Learn to laugh
Does anyone have any fun in their life? I doubt it. People are so focused on getting more and bigger things that they forget about being present and enjoying what you already have.
We become too stressed out of fear of losing something or because of worry about lossing something. This stress can sometimes lead to giving up and having less experiences, which is definitely not good.
If you want to enjoy your life, then you must learn how to reduce your level of stress. One way to do this is by educating yourself on emotional intelligence (EI).
Emotional intelligence is described as the ability to recognize, understand, and manage one’s emotions. It helps us achieve our goals and fulfill ourselves due to its effect on mental health and happiness.
People with higher levels of EI are shown to be happier than people who don’t quite possess it. They also report lower amounts of stress and depression.
There are several different types of emotional intelligence, but there is one factor that makes the difference between someone who has high emotional intelligence and someone who doesn’t.
This factor is called “being able to take a step back and think about your situation before reacting.”
By taking time to consider all the possibilities, you will probably arrive at a better solution than just rushing into anything.
Cultivate your friendships
All too often, people get so focused on their career that they forget to invest in other important areas of their life. These include family, friends, community, hobbies and even self-care.
Running after what you want can help you achieve your goals, but it comes with a cost. You may lose connection with those who are important to you.
By investing time into relationships, you create opportunities to connect and communicate. This increases happiness and helps you feel more contented.
It also raises your perceived quality of life by helping you feel like you’re someone others look up to or admire.
Having emotional intelligence means being able to relate to and understand emotions of others. It gives you an insight into how others function which is very helpful when interacting with them.
Do not burn bridges
Sometimes we get so focused on trying to make our lives work that we forget what is important in life. We sometimes lose sight of those things that made us who we are as people.
We can become too involved with a job, or someone, making them dependent upon us which creates stress. Or we may feel like we has to live up to their high standards which adds more pressure.
At the end of the day, these things can be detrimental to your mental health. If you need time to focus on yourself, if you need space to recover from stressful situations, you must create spaces for this.
Make self-care a priority by leaving enough time to do it (perhaps every morning before work) and allocate resources (suchas money for food, transportation, etc.) to support it.
Also consider using technology less during times to prioritize face-to-face interactions.
Become a good listener
Being able to listen is one of the most important skills you can develop because it impacts almost every area of your life. Whether it’s listening to someone talk about their problems or needs, listening to an explanation, argumentor request for help, listening to music, or even just listening to silence, having effective communication is essential.
When we are able to communicate well, we feel more relaxed, confident, and comfortable. We feel better about ourselves when we understand what others need from us and give them what they want.
Healing and improving our relationships takes effort, but being aware and understanding of other people’s emotions and thoughts helps us move forward in that process. It also helps us maintain our relationships longer since we're looking out for each other.
Emotional intelligence isn't something that comes easily to everyone, but if you work at it, you will find yourself happier and healthier.