How Is Emotional Intelligence Related To Personality
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Recent research is showing that there are strong links between emotional intelligence (EI) and personality traits. These connections go beyond simply having more or less of a certain trait, as most traditional theories suggest. Rather, EI seems to play an important role in predicting which specific traits you have.
Specifically, researchers have found that people who are high in EI tend to be higher in agreeability (the tendency to show empathy for others and sympathy for their suffering), conscientiousness (taking care about things by completing tasks consistently), openness to experience (willingness to explore new ideas and experiences) and extraversion (being outgoing and socially engaging). In other words, they are sometimes described as “good” personalities.
On the other hand, individuals with low levels of EI are typically characterized as “bad” personalities. This includes being lower in agreeableness, neuroticism (or shyness, nervousness), introversion and/or lower in average level of extroversion than the general population.
You may wonder why someone without these qualities would want to live life. Obviously, some people enjoy interacting with others, but also like staying home alone once in a while. Others appreciate nature and spend time outside very much, and still others feel relaxed when they're just sitting down and doing nothing.
Emotionally intelligent people recognize and understand emotions in themselves and in others, and use this information to make smart decisions.
Relationship between emotional intelligence and personality
People with high levels of emotional intelligence are also described as having higher levels of what we call ‘Big Five’ or 'five factor' personality traits. These include qualities such as extraversion, agreeableness, conscientiousness, openness, and neuroticism.
Studies have shown that people who are highly emotionally intelligent tend to be more socially competent, happier, and better at relationships than individuals without EI.
They may also have lower levels of aggression and hostility, which is why they're not typically in hot water due to workplace conflicts or disagreements over an argumentative topic.
Emotionally intelligent people use their emotions to help them achieve their goals and understand the motivations of other people. This makes it easy for them to predict how others will respond to things and influence them in positive ways.
On the flip side, low-EI individuals might struggle to recognize emotions in others and could misinterpret motives and behaviors.
The five elements of emotional intelligence
There are five main components of what we call “emotional intelligence.” These components come in two forms, either internal or external. Internal emotional skills include self-awareness, understanding feelings, managing emotions, relationship management, and motivation. External emotional skills include perception, expression, regulation, and relationships.
Most people have some degree of internal emotional skill. For example, they may be aware of their own moods and how that affects them, but they might not necessarily understand why those moods exist and occur at certain times.
They may also know how to manage their own emotions well, but if someone else’s behavior is getting under your skin, you can still feel overexposed and irritated.
External emotional skills like perception and expression go hand in hand. Someone who is able to perceive the world around them is more likely to learn about the reasons why other people behave the way they do. They can then apply this knowledge to interpret and regulate their own behaviors and thoughts.
How to be more emotional intelligent
Being able to recognize your emotions is one of the most important skills you can develop because it helps you understand yourself and others. By being aware of what you are feeling, you will be better at controlling your reactions and understanding why you feel the way you do.
This also means being able to identify which feelings are appropriate and in order for you to enjoy life fully, you need to learn how to control your emotions.
Research has shown that people who are able to manage their own emotions are happier than those who cannot. It seems obvious but we seem to forget that our moods matter and have an effect on everyone around us!
Emotions play a big part in personality. For example, someone with low emotional intelligence may never realize that other people get irritated or upset when they talk too much.
Someone with high emotional intelligence might acknowledge that this is happening and try to calm down his/her talking style before things get out of hand.
Take care of your mental health
While emotional intelligence has been linked with several personality traits, there is no clear link between them all. That means you do not have to have a high level of emotional intelligence to be categorized as introverted, or highly organized, or like me, a social butterfly!
Instead, it’s important to note that people who are socially intelligent can easily put themselves in other person’s shoes, which helps them understand how they feel. On the flip side, people who are intellectually oriented may not necessarily apply their knowledge towards understanding why someone else might feel something.
Overall, being emotionally intelligent is a great way to improve your relationships and gain more self-confidence. You will realize that you don’t always have to worry about what others think, because you factorize things correctly on your own.
Your internal emotions help you get through each day, so make sure to take good care of yourself physically and mentally.
Develop your emotional self
Recent research is showing that there are ways to improve your emotional intelligence (EI) by developing your emotional skills or qualities. These include things like practicing gratitude, understanding others’ emotions, recognizing and labeling emotions you have, and using emotion regulation strategies.
There are several theories about what makes someone feel more confident in their EI. One theory suggests that people with higher levels of empathy have greater confidence in their ability to understand other people’s feelings. Another theory says it’s the experience level in identifying and managing their own emotions that contributes to being able to identify those for other people.
However, no matter which theory is correct, all agree that having healthy relationships depends on individuals who show various levels of emotional maturity. In fact, studies have shown that successful relationships are linked to high EE scores!
So how can we develop our emotional selves? Here are some tips:
Read books written from an emotionally intelligent perspective. Many good resources exist online as well. You may also want to consider seeking out training in emotional literacy or EQ. This could be through a community organization, educational institution, or professional certification program.
Practice acceptance and forgiveness. Forgiving somebody means letting go of resentment they made you feel or actions they took that hurt you. Accepting something means acknowledging its existence without judgment.
Use mindfulness practices to reduce stress.
Be honest with your peers
As we have discussed, EQ is related to other things such as personality traits. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t improve your emotional intelligence. In fact, there are many ways to increase your EI even if you don’t feel like you have much of it right now.
One way to do this is to be more aware of how your personal tendencies influence others. For example, when someone else is feeling down, it can make you feel better to say something kind or tell them why they should look forward to their future.
On the other hand, when someone else is in an upbeat mood, saying encouraging things could backfire and making them feel worse instead. Try giving people some space and seeing what effects they bounce back with after you've shared your thoughts.
Your colleagues will certainly notice whether you're paying attention to their emotions or not, so being conscious of yours will stand out. You might also want to consider looking into professional help for anxiety or depression.
Choose your friends wisely
It’s important to recognize that emotional intelligence is related to personality. Your personality influences who you are socialized with, which then impacts how you process information from those individuals.
So, it makes sense that people who are more socially intelligent will associate with other individuals who have similar levels of empathy and emotion regulation.
On the opposite end of the spectrum, less socially competent people will develop strong relationships with others that lack in moral compasses or empathy.
Speak with your anger
Many people think that emotional intelligence is only about being able to recognize emotions in others, but it goes much deeper than that. Being aware of your own feelings and how they affect you and other people is what makes up part one of emotional intelligence.
The second part is being able to identify and understand your emotions. It’s not just knowing what you feel like at this moment, it's having insight into why you are feeling a certain way.
With regard to personality, there are several theories that try to link emotional quotient (EQ) with someone’s tendency to be introverted or extrovert.
Extrinsic motivation comes from outside sources such as rewards and punishments, praise and criticism, opportunities for recognition and so on.