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Many guys have the belief that girls can’t be overly expressive over text.
Girls indeed tend to be more reserved in their own company, especially with strangers or people they haven’t met.
However, it doesn’t mean that you can’t get a girl to open up.
We express ourselves in different ways, especially when we talk to men.
You might find that women don’t often speak about their emotions in their own company.
However, when we are being intimate with a man, we usually express ourselves.
So what I am trying to say is that, even though you might not get a girl to talk about her emotions over text, you might get her to open up just enough to get you in the mood.
Remember, ladies, love it when guys tell them they look good.
In most cases, women don’t get overly expressive over text, but she may laugh at you, tell you you’re funny, tell you something funny or cute about herself, or something like that.
Whatever comes to mind, you can tell her. As you can see, complimenting her could go a long way.
But you have to think about your words carefully. In other words, don’t tell a girl that she is pretty or she is sexy.
Be more subtle. On the other hand, if you really feel like going for it, then go for it, but make sure that you are doing it the right way.
You must be thinking, “How do I get a girl to open up over text?”
Don’t worry, this article has got you covered.
Here is a quick and easy guide on how to get a girl to open up over text.
First things first: Determine your timing.
If you can have sex in one hour (not all girls are sexually available to you at that time) or on a first date then do it.
There’s no reason to waste any time with a girl who isn’t going to be receptive to your efforts to hook up.
Pick a time in between a girl's normal routine.
As with most things in life, the best time to get a girl to open up is when she’s in an emotional rut.
Chances are when you go on a first date with a girl and take her home with you, she’s already a little down from missing her friends and family or her boyfriend, and going out in a group just makes her feel more lonely.
Make it easy for her to open up, and make her feel connected to you. Let her know that you understand where she’s coming from.
When it comes to hooking up, most people are focusing on the wrong key.
The key is to build some real, genuine attraction, and you can accomplish that by making her feel that you’re a good person.
Once she gets over the initial “I just need to get laid” feeling, then you’ll be able to get her to open up on the second date or even the third.
Here’s how to approach the “getting to know you” portion of a first date. First, relax.
We don’t have to talk to anyone we don’t want to, it’s your choice. But, let’s face it, most of us are in public places and don’t want to have awkward silences while we work on our elevator pitch.
So instead of putting pressure on yourself to just talk to people, you don’t know, the better way to approach the situation is to do something kind to get their attention, rather than “seeming” like you want to talk to people you don’t know.
It’s also important that you find out if she has a problem.
Women aren’t obligated to talk to you and, if they’re not interested in talking to you, then you can’t force them.
So, you should always take an interest in what a woman does or does not like.
You might want to ask her a question that shows you understand her point of view, or you might want to talk about how it is better to be healthy.
Even just taking a moment to give her feedback and maybe asking for advice will allow her to get to know you a bit better, and before you know it you will be sitting around a table talking for hours about all the things you have in common, without your having to spend another moment of your time trying to get her to open up.
From there, you can simply ask her what she’s doing tonight and she’ll most likely be thrilled to know that you asked her.
If she’s married, she’ll definitely be thrilled that you asked her. You may be nervous, but you need to get over that, or you’ll just never get anywhere.
Once you know what she’s doing tonight, go out there and do it! Take the girl you’re talking to in the movies, to a bar or club, or even just to your house.
A lot of guys make the mistake of getting to the point of asking a girl out, but then going back home and obsessing about it.
Some guys even try to plan their first date, but then don’t go, and before they know it, they lose out on a great opportunity that they really could’ve turned into a date.
So make sure you go out there and ask the girl out. If she says no, then she doesn’t say no because she doesn’t want to go out with you.
She says no because she’s a procrastinator or too busy.
Don’t waste another second.