How To Politely Tell A Girl You Are Not Interested
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If you're into her, you want her to know it and you don't want to come off as mean or cruel.
You don't want to freak her out.
You just want to have some fun with her, maybe talk about something as friends and then drop her off at home.
You don't want the girl to be disappointed.
Asking her out is a little different though
That's when you have to make it clear.
When you ask a girl out and she declines, you have to take her to the spot where the date started and start over.
You don't want her to be left wondering why you didn't go any further.
According to ancient Indian philosophy, the way you go about getting a woman to like you is by communicating.
Just remember that. Most guys don't know how to communicate their intentions with the right words so you may be considered kind of a jerk.
Have you ever felt bad for calling a girl a cow? Do you sometimes feel as if you have to let a girl know that you are not interested?
If you have, you're not alone.
After reading this article, you can be a little more prepared the next time you want to ask a girl out.
Maybe you're already making plans with her or want to set up a date with her but are not sure how to start, read on for a quick guide.
It's not her fault
According to basic dating etiquette rules, it is expected of you to be clear with the other person if you are not interested.
However, that's the thing. Being clear with a woman can mean different things to different people. It can mean that you want to talk, or it can mean that you don't want to talk at all.
It may also mean that you just don't like her as a person. There's no set rule about how you have to tell a woman you are not interested.
Sometimes a man will wait until after a date to tell a woman he's not interested, while other guys just tell the girl in the first place.
If you're the one waiting to tell a girl you are not interested, then you could find yourself in trouble.
Does she come up to you later and you're the one sitting in a dark corner crying?
Yeah, that's not going to happen. You have to be clear with the girl from the beginning, then you can move on with your life.
In a study done at Stanford University, it was found that of the women, about 60% were OK with it when a guy was vague about his intentions.
So, being clear is a good thing. The problem is, most guys don't know how to communicate their intentions.
They also wait to tell a girl that they are not interested in a date.
When a man follows this easy-to-follow sequence, he is on the same playing field as a woman. It is fair, it is mutual and it can lead to something much more interesting.
Tips to be clear without coming off as rude
It is better to smile and tell a woman you are not interested than looking like a heartless bastard.
Not only is it unprofessional, but it can also come off as rude.
2. Don't ask her if she's had a good time
That doesn't sound very nice. Sometimes, women ask men out and they do.
So, if a man doesn't tell her that he is not interested in dating her anymore, she may feel bad.
She's probably going to worry if you are with her at the end of the night and if something has happened.
If you tell her, she'll understand why you're no longer interested.
3. Speak to her
Asking a woman if she enjoyed herself is totally rude. You have to ask her.
It is also unprofessional.
4. Don't talk about yourself
The best way to get a woman to talk to you is to not talk about yourself.
What is wrong with you?
5. Speak like a man
If you want to avoid being called a dick, try not to speak in such a soft tone.
You are supposed to be the alpha man.
6. Let her tell you how she feels
When a girl says she is not interested in a date, the right thing to do is not to beat around the bush and make her feel bad about it.
You have to tell her you are not interested right away, instead of letting her worry and wondering for a few hours.
7. Walk away
Just because you are not interested doesn't mean you have to put up with her.
If she wants to talk more, you can tell her you are busy at the moment.
If she's telling you she likes you and you are not interested in dating her, there is not much you can do.