Howdy! A Portland, OR native, I currently reside in the northern San Diego County area as a freelance writer. When I'm not sipping coffee, soaking up some rays and writing or playing guitar you can find me at the hot yoga studio.
Hey, we know it's awkward to do this, especially because it's a whole new thing for you.
But it's time you know how to tell a girl doesn't want to text you.
You might never get a girl to agree to date over text, but you should know how to express your interest in any way you see fit to girls you like.
And, sometimes, you might not get a text back at all, but you should still be able to use the information you have to get to know the girl more about what she's like and how you'd want to date her.
Telling a girl she doesn't want to text you will go better for you than you might think, but you still might not want to send that text.
You don't want to make a move when you don't know what she wants. And, sometimes, that awkwardness works to your advantage.
Let's say you get a text and you're excited to see what she has to say.
You've got some time to wait. You can wait because you can send her a couple of texts before she responds, seeing how she reacts and what kind of mood she's in.
You might even be able to give her space and time to think about what you said.
That is not the case with all girls. Not every girl wants to text you back right away.
Some girls are thinking really hard about whether she wants to respond.
For that reason, you should be willing to wait for an answer if you want to get to know the girl better.
And, you want to date her because she's worth knowing.
If she's texting you as much as you like texting her, she's texting you because she wants to get to know you more.
That's why she responded so quickly, even when you sent her a text at 5 a.m. and she just woke up.
Now she wants to know how you're doing. She's trying to make plans with you. She's trying to see you again.
That's what girls are like when they like you. She wants to talk to you. She wants to hang out.
Some girls don't text you much at all, because they're not interested in you.
If you send them a text and they don't respond, it's probably because you didn't text her back fast enough.
Or, she might have blocked you on Facebook or Snapchat. Or she might have looked you up online and blocked you out of fear of you finding her.
There's no reason to try to talk to her.
Some girls just aren't into you, and it's hard to change that.
You want girls who will treat you like you're worth them taking the time to talk to.
When girls don't text you back, they're probably telling you how they feel about you.
In this scenario, she's probably telling you that she isn't interested in you, and that's the way it's going to stay.
You can't have a conversation with her, because she doesn't want to talk to you. You need to accept that and move on.
The second reason is worse.
If she responds but then starts texting you again in a couple of hours, it's a sign that she doesn't want to date you.
It might be a friend's birthday, or she might be working. If she's still texting you, it means she doesn't want to get to know you better.
Or, she might just not be interested in you at all. She doesn't have feelings for you.
You're just a connection she's had with some guy who's ignoring her.
Let's say you get a text and she's happy to talk to you. You're a step closer to figuring out if she likes you.
In that case, she's responding because she likes you and she wants to hang out.
But, if she doesn't respond, she doesn't like you. Or, at least, she doesn't have any feelings for you.
The second reason makes more sense. It's a little more complicated than the first reason, but it's still true.
There's really only one way to know if she likes you. Send her another text, and try to start the conversation again.
Then, wait a few days and send another text. This time, if she responds, you'll know for sure.
Or, if she doesn't respond, try to get to know her a little bit better. Make plans to hang out with her.
Ask her on a date. You should be able to set something up pretty soon.
But, if she does not want to date you, you should not try to text her back or continue talking to her.
It's best to accept the truth and move on.