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Let’s just say you are sick of dating, or you are just not into the next girl who is asking. For most guys out there, “I have had enough.”
However, not everyone is like that.
And for some, it is not easy to tell someone they are going to be in a relationship with someone else.
At the end of the day, it’s tough to say no.
On the other hand, we also need to understand the fact that we have a sense of responsibility.
This is especially important if you are single and looking for someone.
In other words, we cannot leave someone to waste away in a meaningless relationship because we are too afraid to admit we are in love.
From experience, this is a recipe for heartbreak.
It’s hard to even say “goodbye” at times because you do not want to end it on a bad note.
Do not fall for that trap.
The best thing to do is to avoid such traps.
For this article, we will be looking at ways to tell a girl you are in love, to tell her you are over it, or to end the relationship.
Since you already know what she is asking, let’s skip the first two steps.
So, let’s get to it.
For this step, I will assume you are single.
For guys out there who are already in a relationship, the conversation might be a little different.
However, here is how I usually break it down.
First, I would begin by saying I’m not interested in a serious relationship.
In other words, I will give her an out if she is not into you.
I want her to know that this is all about a casual relationship. In other words, it is about fun and nothing more.
At the same time, I want her to know I am there for her if she ever needs me.
At the end of the day, if I did not give her an out, I would end the conversation and go home.
This step is the most difficult because it often involves a lot of digging into someone’s soul.
Here is how I usually do it.
I will start by saying that I would like to ask you some questions.
To begin, I would like to know why you do not like me and why you think you are better than me.
I might take the conversation in this direction:
“Do you think you are better than me?”
She will usually answer with an attitude (because of being defensive), saying, “No, I don’t.”
At that point, I will tell her I know she thinks she is better than me.
What I am trying to say here is that I know she thinks she is better than other girls, especially the ones who are really like me.
However, she is never really as great as she thinks she is.
“I know you think you are better than other girls, especially the ones who are really like me.”
I would then continue by saying:
“But you are not. You are just like other girls.
You are a pretty face, who may be sweet, but you are not really special.
I think you are the same as other girls.
However, we can still be friends.”
We will talk for a while about what she is looking for in a guy.
Then, I will ask her to send me a picture so we can have a picture of ourselves.
If she does, I will ask her to send me one of me and her together.
Then, we will take a couple of pictures together and send them to each other.
The best part is, if she doesn’t send one, I would be able to see that she is a pretty ordinary girl with no special qualities.
Because you have no idea how much effort I’ve put into making a girl like me. I have tried to get her to like me for a long time now.
If she is so much better than other girls, then why did she not want to send me a picture?
That is a sign that she is not special and that she might have a high level of self-esteem issues.
After we send the pictures, I will probably wait one week and see what happens.
If she keeps sending them, then you have a good chance.
If she does not send a single picture and asks for an explanation, then you have a good chance.
Finally, I would say, “I am not interested in a serious relationship. I just want to be friends with you.”
She will probably say:
“That’s fine, I’ll go out with you again.”
“I would love to go out with you again.”
Or, you might get some other response like:
“Sure, I’ll do it.”
If she does not say anything else after a week, that means you have no chance.
The picture is the first step.
If you use this strategy with every girl, then you have a good chance of getting a date with her.
Go On A Date
After a week, I will ask her to go on a date with me.
If she agrees, then the date will be easy.
If she does not agree, then I will never bother her again.
When she says “yes,” that means:
She is very insecure and wants to be sure she can get a date with me.
She thinks she has to go on a date with me to get a guy’s attention.
If she says no, then you have a good chance.
She might be embarrassed to go on a date with you because she thinks she is ugly and that nobody will like her.
Or, maybe she thinks you will treat her badly.
You can try to reassure her by saying, “That is not true. I like you a lot.
I will treat you very well.”
You should also try to convince her that you will not mistreat her or hurt her.
If you start to lose her, then you have no chance.
So, use this guide to teach you to get a date with any girl.
Once you have a date set up with a girl, then you have a good chance.
At that time, you will say to her:
“I will be very happy to spend time with you.”
“I have a lot of fun with you.”
“I am looking forward to spending time with you.”
“I hope we can spend more time together.”
Now, you just have to do your part.
You need to be honest with her, you need to be yourself, and you need to treat her nicely.